Let Them. Let God. Let Me.

We were already behind schedule.

The deadline was approaching, and the team knew it. But instead of clear updates, all I got was silence. No heads-up. No accountability. Just a half-hearted email after I asked—confirming what I already suspected.

They were late. And they’d known it for days.

I felt that heat rising in my chest. The frustration. The urge to call everybody out. Because the old me? Oh, I would’ve drafted an email with bullet points, timestamps, and receipts.

But right as I opened my laptop, I paused.

What am I trying to prove?
What do I want this email to do?
And more importantly—who do I want to be right now?

That’s when I remembered something I heard from Mel Robbins—her Let Them Theory.

“You can’t control what other people do. You can only control yourself.”

Whew. Okay, Mel.
But also—let’s take it further. Because as a woman of faith, I can’t just let them.

I have to:
Let Them. Let God. Let Me.

Let Them.
Let them be dishonest.
Let them delay.
Let them stay silent.
Let them pretend like it’s not that serious.

It’s not your job to chase clarity or force responsibility.
It’s your job to stay in alignment with your character.

You can lead with integrity without over-functioning for people who aren’t doing their part.

Let God.
While I let them, I also have to let God—because otherwise I’ll carry what’s not mine.

Let God fight my battles.
Let God uncover what’s hidden.
Let God restore what feels broken.
Let God lead me with wisdom—even when I feel like clapping back.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6

Letting God means I don’t have to micromanage or manipulate. I can trust that justice, clarity, and progress are not only on me.

Let Me.
Let me be honest—this part is the hardest.

Because when stuff goes wrong, my default is to fix it. Fast.
To step in. Clean it up. Keep it moving.

But that’s not always holy.
Sometimes that’s just fear of being blamed. Or needing to feel in control.

Let me grow from this—without guilt.
Let me speak up—without carrying their load.
Let me rest—without rehearsing the “what ifs.”
Let me trust that I am not the problem here.

I can’t control them.
I can’t control the outcome.
But I can control how I show up—with clarity, peace, and presence.

The Freedom in Surrender
This isn’t about being passive. It’s about being powerful in the right ways.

Letting them go.
Letting God lead.
Letting me be.

And when I do that?

→ When I Let Them, I stop striving.
→ When I Let God, I find peace.
→ When I Let Me, I lead with purpose.

A Prayer for Release

Lord, help me let them go.
Help me let You be God.
And help me let me—be the woman You’ve called me to be.
Amen.